in retrospect…

now that you’ve had your vacations [5 days, eh??], it is now back to the grind, back to work, and back to dealing with all your problems in life… me? i stayed home and blog hopped all that 5 days, played RO, the wife and I were invited for a tasting, and we played a few rounds of badminton with Baddicts! last Saturday… suffice it to say that we took advantage of a traffic-free Manila…

anyway, speaking of problems, some bloggers and i put up a new blog meant to address men’s women-related, love- and sex-related, relationship-related, and basically, all problems that a man suffers everyday… we do not suppose that we have all the answers to daily life, but at least, men will now have a shoulder to lean on, so to speak…

the blog is called AllTooRealMen, and this came about during the conversations made during the post-event party of the 2007 Philippine Blog Awards… conversations really were varied, from women fashion from the point of view of a man, sex, politics, Shari’s sex life, to just about anything that we can think of… and ATRM was just one of the by-products of that…

anyway, if you are male and have a problem you are not inclined to tell your best bud, go to the site and tell us… we just might be able to help you out… of course, women are not banned from viewing the site, so all you women out there, take a look at the site and you just might learn a thing or two…

Ciao, sweetie…

Tags: [ men problems | relationships | sex | love ]

because of the basically Catholic upbringing of Pinoys — which, in itself, is already bad enough — we were brought up that sex is a bad thing [no, it's not!!], that it can only be used for procreation, that we can only have one — and only one — life partner, that, once married, we are committed to this person “till death do us part”, and that we cannot have more than one relationship — sexual or otherwise — with anyone else anymore… because of this very strict upbringing, men most specially, hide their “other” relationships from their girlfriends or wives for fear of reprisal from them and from the community they belong in… bigamy and polygamy comes into mind, then… but then again, these references only reflect states of marriages…

but what if, in a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, one or both of them enter into another relationship with another person, an intimate relationship akin to having another girlfriend or boyfriend?? not in a sexual way, of course [it may be a part, though]…

enter polyamory (poly=multiple + amor=love)… Wikipedia describes polyamory as “the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved”… polyamorouse relationships is also described as consensual and/or responsible non-monogamy… i know, i know… your restrictive backgrounds prevent you from even considering one other relationship with another… but multiple??